The Weight of Other People’s Expectations

There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much, but from trying to be too much. Trying to be the decisive leader and the empathetic one. The bold visionary and the careful steward. The person who sets the direction and the person who...

What a Quiet Mind Actually Feels Like

When I talk with leaders about having a quieter mind, they sometimes look at me with something between hope and scepticism. Hope, because the idea sounds appealing. Scepticism, because they have been trying to achieve it for years with limited success. They have done...

What Anger Is Actually Telling You

I spent years feeling mildly angry. Not in an explosive way. Not the kind of anger that lands you in trouble. More of a low-level background irritation that coloured everything, like a slightly wrong filter on every photograph. Meetings annoyed me. Traffic annoyed me....

The Mind That Won’t Let You Sleep

It is three in the morning and you are awake. Not because anything catastrophic has happened. Not because there is an alarm, or a genuine emergency, or something that genuinely requires your attention right now. You are awake because your mind has decided that three...

The Sacks He Could Not Put Down

I had a friend who carried his past everywhere. Not metaphorically in the way people say it, but in the most literal sense available to the mind. Every conversation circled back to what had been done to him. His first business partner who walked away. The father who...